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There's an important difference between "caring what people think" and "caring about people."  One has to do with their perception of you, and the other has to do with their perception of themselves through your eyes. And frankly, they're going to be more interested in the latter.

I haven't cited anything here, because the paragraph above is simply my opinion.  Feel free to disagree with me.  Or agree.  Give me examples.  I'm interested to hear your thoughts!